March 28

How to use a Reward Chart

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Our charts are designed to turn children’s chores and behavior control into a fun experience!

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Reward ChartsChore Charts, Routine Charts, or whatever you want to call them, are genius tools to improve your child’s behavior, do chores, homework and more. Reward reinforce good behavior on the spot because children understand clearly what they are expected to be done and they make the connection between what you are saying and what they have just done.

Amazing things can occur in your home simply by using a Reward Chart.

Not only things will get done but also:

Will help your child to improve:

  • Self-Esteem
  • Self-Sufficiency
  • Self-Motivation
  • Behavior Management
  • Responsibility

In conlcusion, this is what is called Emotional Intelligence, which is basic to grow a competent person.

Also will help your family to improve:

  • Communication
  • Organization
  • Harmony & Happiness

Step 1. Choose which chores or behaviors your child has to improve

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First of all, make sure that your child is in appropriate age to understand the concept.

Make the target behavior something that is easily achievable, to begin with. Choose carefully the number of chores and behaviors you are going to put on the chart. You don’t want your kid to be confused or overwhelmed.

Which behavioral issue would you most like to change in your child?

Think what is the one thing that causes you most stress? If you have a partner, discuss it together. Is it the same one? Make it SMART:

  • Specific: What exactly is the issue? My child won’t go to bed so I don’t get any me-time in the evenings.
  • Measurable: What would be a good outcome? My child would be in bed by 7.30pm even if she’s not asleep.
  • Achievable: Is that possible? Yes (depending on the age of the child and the time she gets up).
  • Realistic: Is it realistic to expect this outcome given the way your lives are at present? Well, I don’t get in from work until 7 and she is so excited to see me that she won’t go to bed so perhaps it isn’t realistic to expect her to let go of me so quickly. Maybe I need to rethink the bedtime to 8 pm so I can spend an extra half an hour reading to her.
  • Timely: When are you going to start? We’ve got friends coming tomorrow so the evening after that.

Step 2. Establish Rules

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Explain to your child what will happen from now on and what’s expected. ‘When the clock gets to here (show 7.30pm) Mummy will snuggle down with you and read you a story until the clock gets to here (show 8 pm) and then we’ll turn the light off and put your music on and Mummy will go and have her dinner and you’ll settle down to sleep.’

Get your child to agree. Does that sound OK to you? Are we going to do that? And you won’t get out of bed after the story? Agree the reward: ‘Every night you stay in bed, you’ll get a star on your chart and when you get five stars on your chart you’ll get a…. (agreed prize)’

STEP 3. Praise and give reward buttons

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The child will be given a button whenever they achieve these goals. Praise for children, makes your child feel appreciated, compliment your child’s competence and point out their impact on othes.

Give the button/star immediately, as soon as they reach the goal, otherwise, the child may not associate the reward with his better behavior.

Use a menu of rewards e.g 2 stickers = extra story at bedtime, 4 stickers = trip to the library to choose new books, 6 stickers = a trip to the park.

Be aware of the impact a reward chart is having or may have on him. It must allow him to see that he is a success and to show others that he is a success – an empty star chart is a sign of failure. Likewise, a star chart where a sibling is flying ahead with stars while he is still on the starting block is not going to feel motivating, but it will feel like a failure, so don’t pit siblings against each other.

It is not advisable to take reward buttons away, lack of rewards will be sufficient.

Step 4. Enjoy the reward

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The best rewards are perhaps those that involve the whole family. So when eight stickers (or ten or whatever) have been awarded, the whole family does something fun: pizzas and a DVD, or a trip to the soft play or the cinema. Let your child choose what she would like to do.

The biggest reward you can give your child is your time and attention. Often misbehavior is a child’s way of getting your attention as they quickly learn that they often get instant attention for undesirable behavior and ignored when they are playing well on their own or doing what we want them to do. Check your child is getting one-to-one time with you on a daily basis and that the misbehavior is not a bid for attention. Be sure you are using praise and paying positive attention to your little one when they are being kind and cooperative.

Alternatively, for something more immediate, have a reward bag or box filled with small but fun items (if possible, wrapped up like a lucky dip). Go to the dollar store and stock up on little bits and novelty items. Occasionally, catch your child being good (bringing his plate from the table without being asked, or staying nice and quiet while you take a long phone call), bring out your reward bag and surprise him with a prize.

It is best to avoid offering food as a reward as this can set up unhelpful and unhealthy food associations.  Try to avoid using sugary treats or other food as a reward.


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